Thursday, October 20, 2016

Stepping It Up This Halloween

October 20th~ time to buy candy for Trick-or treaters soon. We have always tried to buy good candy but not fabulous/whole candy bar candy for the neighborhood goblins. The trick is to not buy the sweet stuff too early or Ron and I will surely need to go out and buy more. Purchasing Reese's is just not a safe idea. We all start worrying about putting on the pounds with the Thanksgiving feast and Christmas cookies but it really starts with Halloween. So the trick is to get candy the kids will love but not candy that we can't resist.

We all knew that house in the neighborhood or that street where people gave the best candy. Whole candy bars or light up toys. Donna Giaquento had that house when our kids were little. They always wanted to hit her house first before the good stuff ran out. I am sure she must have spent a house payment on the goodies she gave out. But it was worth it. Kiddos talked about her house all year. No one would dare litter in her yard or toss a ball to break a window. There was a certain awe about the generosity she represented.

At the house we live in now, we don't get a lot of little ones. We are at the end of the culdesac and our front door is not too obvious. But wait! I am Noni and I have Noni toys at Noni's Park right behind my house. Kids know my yard with Kylie dog and park toys. This is the year I need to step up the Halloween distributions. Full size candy bars and flashing lights to make sure they will come to my door. Now to set about a plan to gather what I need from Party City and find a candy bar that will make it to October 31st.

You adult friends stop by too. There is sure to be something warm or refreshing for our trick-or-drinking friends as well. Heck, maybe Ron will dust off our favorite Tummy Toot Whistle costume from our college days.

In Him,

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Adjusting Gramma Peabody's Promise As Life Unfolds

How is it that I make a cup of coffee in my Keurig each morning; same coffee, same water, same size~different taste? Some mornings, like this morning it is perfection. Other mornings I could be drinking hot water with a dozen cigarette butts. Peculiar. It would seem my morning coffee would be one of those constants in life. I am grateful that this is one of the better cups today. Perhaps it is always slightly different for those of you who add flavored creams and sugars or sweeteners. There is room for variety there but I drink mine black.

Isn't life kind of like my cup of morning Joe? We think the day is going to unfold a certain way; same job, same route to that job, same family beside us. Little things change the course of even the most routine day and at times major life events completely derail our days. Spinning it into tragedy or triumph. It is said that 'Life happens when you are making plans.' That is cliche but so true. If life isn't happening to us personally it could be a friend or family member going through the unexpected.

I guess the point in life, like with my coffee, is to be flexible enough to get through our days whatever comes our way. Perhaps I need to be willing to add a little something to my coffee and my life when it seems the taste is more bitter or harder to swallow. Gramma Peabody would probably forgive me for not 'drinking it black' now that I am 60. Even our promises from long ago may need to be adjusted to blend with life as it unfolds.

In Him,

Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Comfy Cozy

Comfy cozy. Yesterday evening I got an ocular migraine after a wonderful day. Work was great, Ron and I went for a walk then made dinner together. As we sat down to watch the teli, it started. This is not me whining. Almost three decades ago I discovered I could abort a migraine with niacin. It lessens the dipilitating headache but doesn't get me off without a disruption of plans. As always the niacin flush did the trick. I went to bed early to try to help. So this morning I still woke up with a throbbing noggin but thankfully not the 36 hour migraine of my past. 

This morning I am grateful that I can remain comfy cozy and work from home for a few hours. Kylie dog is laying beside me under the blanket, caffeine warm on the table, fireplace keeping us toasty and Ronnie B. still snoozing in bed. My day is not starting out as planned but I will take it. Soon the caffeine and Tylenol will kick in and I will feel up to getting on with my day. Until then, Kylie and I will enjoy a bit more comfy cozy time with each other.

In Him,

Monday, October 17, 2016

Embrace Your Path or Change It

Another Monday, another day to make a difference in our world. I feel so fortunate to be waking up early this Monday to get started on another week. Are you waking up with great expectations of how your week will unfold? Do you look forward to the interactions of coworkers this week? If it isn't a positive for you, how can you change it? Could your attitude make it better? Or is it at the point that you need to make a plan to change completely where your week takes you? For some of us the job is a good fit. We know we are positively impacting the lives of others. Whether you are a nanny, bus driver, cashier, construction worker, or accountant the way you interact with others comes back to fill your heart with joy or curses. Believe it or not this is not a sermon. The truth is that in my own life I have struggles with appreciating my place in the workforce. When I get negative the job and those around me become a burden and a drudge. The opposite is true when I feel like my being there is a help to others. That is when I get focused, busy, and the fire under me warms not only me but those around me.

Take a look, inventory. Are you where you need to be. Earlier this year I was in the wrong place and had to be brave enough to admit it. If you are where you can bloom begin to bloom. Embrace your career. Each and everyone of us has a role to play. No time to sit on our hands and complain. Change starts with us. Positive living begins from within.

 Michael Jackson said it best.

I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
(If you wanna make the world a better place)
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change
(Take a look at yourself, and then make a change)

We really do hold our joy in our own hearts. Embrace your path or change it. Simple? So challenging but so worth it. 

In Him,

Sunday, October 16, 2016

The Gift of Presence

Sometimes just being present
is the gift.
Spending time with others 
is the gift.
Lifetime friends, coworkers, 
those we are just getting to know.

Give yourself and others
the gift.
The gift of conversation,

These simple gifts are the ones 
that make the present 

These are the gifts that
we give ourselves
as well as others.

In Him,

Friday, October 14, 2016

Decision Time

No advise from me today.
My task is to listen, pray and have faith 
That you know your circumstance,
Your relationship, your heart.

Do I have an opinion.
I do.
But I am here on the outside of this.
You are there in the heart of your situation.
The key is in your hand, your heart.
Only you know what 
Decision you will be able to live with.

What if you choose wrong?
It will work out either way.
Your path is yours to walk.
Each of us has come to a fork in the road.
Pray, breathe, 
Then take a step in one direction.

I will be here as you take each step.
Follow your heart.
The hardest step is the first one.
Living in indecision is horrible.
Your words not mine.

In Him,

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Lean In, Don't Step Away

I struggle with an orphan spirit and have for most of my life. This means that I continuously question whether people in my life love me. It is a hard thing to be jealous and wonder if you measure up. I find myself questioning when I haven't heard from a friend if they are angry with me. There is a sense of being left out when they spend time with others. This is something that I pray about and wish I could change.

What I realize with my head is that others struggle with this too. Often when people pull away or isolate themselves it is not because of me but because of an ache in their own life. Too often we build walls where embraces should be. In my own life, I know I sit alone when I feel broken rather than surrounding myself with support. When a friend doesn't call or stop by try not to be offended. Try instead reaching out to them. Chances are they need to be around you as much as you need to be around them. Sometimes you need to be persistent. Right now I have someone going through a struggle. I keep calling and texting with no response. What I know is that my touches matter even if she can't respond at the moment.

Like depression, an orphan spirit is not logical. People look at my life and think it is so filled with others. It is! I have Ronnie B. who walks hand in hand with me through life,  a wonderful family and fabulous friends. Feeling alone is not about being alone it is something broken inside. Don't be fooled by others FB pages or their lively conversations. We all struggle with doubts about our value. Some of us more than others. Reach out, step in, throw your arms around those who are pulling away. If it really is that they don't want to be with you rather than self-doubt they will  let you know with a swift kick. But most of the time they need your love and support. I know I do.

In Him,