My kids will all be in their 20s as of this coming April. One is happily married with 3 wonderful kids and a beautiful, talented wife. Another is struggling to get back on his feet and lives with us for the time being. My 2nd son is in Colorado still battling addictions and work issues. Only 2 hours away, is my youngest and only daughter. She is looking for work, wanting to get back into school and trying to figure life out.
I talk to my married son occasionally and get the pleasure of babysitting from time to time. My son who lives with us is a pleasure to have at home but it seems like he needs to fly away and spread his wings. The son in Colorado is doing it on his own because we have made too many mistakes trying to do it for him. This has just delayed his growing into himself. Enough said?
Natalie is struggling, looking for a job, wondering about school, and what her next step should be. While she was in school and working we could support her. Now, we want to but think we would be hurting more than helping if we just do it for her.
I think all parents struggle with when to help and when to cut grown children loose. Their are no perfect answers because every situation is different. What I know is I can always support them with prayers and encouragement. It may be best not to support them financially. My children will always have my love and prayers. I will be there to share their successes and heartbreaks. I will even bring the tissue if we just need to cry and scream.
But as children grow into adults, they need to realize that though I will always be their mom, I am also a person that has feelings too. It is so lovely when one of them calls just to say, "Hi, how are you Mom."
In Him,
Joyful
2-23-2010
2-23-2010
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